We get to choose in each moment how we are going to treat ourselves. One of our choices is to embrace ourselves with compassion. We can learn to be compassionate with ourselves no matter what is going on in our lives.
I believe Self-Compassion is a key aspect on our path of healing, growth, and collective liberation. Self-Compassion is not just a feel-good idea that we either have or we don't. It is a practice and a way of being with ourselves that can become a framework within which we live.
Self-compassion is associated with emotional intelligence and healthy responses to stress. Studies in Mindful Self-Compassion link the practice to decreased levels of depression, anxiety, stress, rumination, body shame and fear of failure as well as greater levels of life satisfaction and motivation.
In my Cultivating Self-Compassion workshop, it is my intention to make this practice simple and tangible. One of the ways I do this is to guide participants to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (or tapping on acupuncture points) as a tool for self-compassion.
Together as a group, we tap on the EFT points while making self-soothing statements that allow us to breathe a little deeper and create space to exist in the moment as we are. Using EFT to practice self-compassion engages the body, mind, and heart and gives us a formal way to rewire our inner dialogue toward kindness.
Self-Compassion and Emotional Freedom Techniques are natural companions. Both have been found to regulate cortisol in the body and turn on the self-soothing aspect of our nervous system, allowing us to generate a sense of calm and safety within. Both can offer clarity and greater perspective while deepening our connection to ourselves.
Learning self-compassion takes awareness and practice. It takes patience. We can move at our own pace and we don’t have to do it alone. For many of us, it will help to have the support of a therapist, teacher, or guide.
Self-compassion opens the door to giving ourselves permission to exist as we are. It connects us to our wise, strong, and deeply creative hearts. It helps us find the courage to face the parts of ourselves and our lives that we would rather push away or ignore.
Self-compassion can keep us connected to a gentle and soft space within. A kind and forgiving space that allows us to settle into our experience (no matter what it is) as we give ourselves permission to be human. To hurt. To feel. To make mistakes. To have limits. To be imperfect. To care. To be angry or sad. To forgive. To mend. To dream. To love. To grow. To be.
If this kind of exploration sparks your interest, please join me for an afternoon of Cultivating Self-Compassion Click here for all the details and registration.
Cultivating Self-Compassion is the first workshop in my Self-Soothing Skills Workshop Series for Women at Terra Cottage in Alameda.